A negative self-structure. as opposed to self-esteem, will maintain negative social outcomes and perceptions of social situations.
High self-esteem may not account for positive interpersonal relationships but aggression, prejudice and manipulation. There is a secure form of high self-esteem and fragile form of self-esteem. The fragile form will work towards maintaining their self-structure by controlling others, manipulation or aggression, whereas the secure form understands their weaknesses and strengths of self and have healthy, caring and supportive relationships.
Therefore confidence about your self-structure may not account for healthy relationships. Others may notice, before you do which is called precontemplation stage of change. This is because you may feel ok about your interpersonal behaviour, but others may not. Contemplation stage (when you start to think about what others are saying) may lead you to treatment that will safely change your fragile form of high self-esteem to the secure form of high-self esteem and reward you with healthy relationships and happiness.
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