Finally sitting at home with my feet up and decided to write about an experience today. Going back to perception, we tend to perceive the world the way we interpret it together with our preconceptions even though they are misconceptions. In other words, we see only what we want to see. Last week I decided to drive to Hawthorn only to find that I could not find parking. I needed at least 3 hours and became frustrated when half an hour had passed and found nothing. I could not believe that there was no all day parking available that I could pay for. Until today...
This time, as I usually do, I went by train and decided to go for a walk around Hawthorn. Over the last few months I have managed to design a routine that I felt comfortable with. But today I decided to get out of my comfort zone and go exploring. On my way I found at least two massive car parking lots that I could have paid for and parked comfortably all day!
You see, last week I expected to find no parking and found nothing even though there was plenty available. The frustration blocked my ability to see from a wider perspective. I was not open to surprises around the corner but assumed the worst. My thoughts were negative and so was my experience. Today I felt expansive, light and in awe of the new surroundings.
When we design our life with a map that is already written and we walk the same path every single day, all we get is the same old thing. When we decide to walk a different path, even though we are not sure what is to come of that experience we are surprised. Sometimes the surprise is not what we expect. In other words it is not a positive experience but can move us in a way that can help us grow. It depends on how we see that experience.
Sometimes we can think that the world is working against us, but really it is setting the scene for important lessons that we will soon realise - but only if we are open to learning.
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