Trauma experiences are different for everyone but essentially it is one or more exposures that is over and above your capacity to cope. However, as it was difficult to cope you may have dissociated which is similar to switching the mind off or a feeling of floating away. This is when the amygdala in the brain tells you to freeze to survive. You may also become aggressive and fight or flight by running. Again this is when the amygdala tells you to fight or flight to survive. These strategies are helpful at the time as they would have been your only way to cope. However, when you continue to use these strategies when triggers occur but your current situation is actually not harmful then you need to process your trauma to heal.
Some people use money to heal from trauma. Flight may mean gambling to cope with the trauma symptoms to avoid noticing what you are going through. You may have felt that money was more important than you when you were young so waste it away as the association is negative. You may spend money and become a hoarder as your things were either given away or as a child you felt your belongings were not valued or lived as a have not of society. This doesn't mean for parents to buy their children whatever they want as it is important to teach them it is normal to do without sometimes but some parents may be neglectful on the abusive side and not consider their child's needs which may include giving away most toys they love. For a child this may be traumatic. Instead get the child to be part of the decision making. Some families are unfortunately poor and the children may grow up wanting to make up for the past by hoarding things to avoid the feeling of lack. People may also use money to feel a sense of belonging that is not real. However the real feeling of belonging may be too triggering as it was a traumatic experience when they were young so a superficial experience is safer. Noticing how you use money can help you identify your coping strategies and if they are maladaptive. Healing from your past trauma may help you change your relationship with money. Have a look at your bank statements which will tell a story of how you use money and then identify the reason why you are spending in such a way by finding the association between past and present. Change your present by healing from your past and have a better relationship with money.
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